My rule of thumb is if it’s just appearance only and no one is hurting themselves then say nothing. It’s a bad idea to comment on peoples looks, boyfriends, kids… You get the idea. Now, if you determine that she is starving herself or is in any harm, then yes feel her out, possibly at lunch over a burger, and express your concerns. Make sure she takes a bite, but be prepared to be met with resistance.
Hollymom