You don’t mention if you are married or just dating. To me, it’s very cut and dry. You’re either married or you’re not. If you’re married, yes, you should consider it par for the course and look, but don’t touch. Boredom from time to time is normal. Role play with your spouse, or fantasize about your crush when you need to spice it up with your mate. If you’re dating, run for the hills. Nobody’s got time for that. You can’t marry someone who bores you before you say I do!!!